I feel as though I should be able to meekly state my thoughts as openly as anyone else. But that is not what this world treasures. See, I like to be loud in joyful situations and quiet in thought-provoking ones. Maybe because I am less worried about winning and more worried about staying true.

I am not one to jump on any bandwagon. The thoughts I have on this subject and any other subject are always well thought out and well researched. I am incapable of jumping to conclusions because I think too much. I am incapable of believing in anything without truly feeling it fully. I do not follow the crowd. If I did, I would be more “popular” than I am. I am not interested in conformity, nor am I capable of it.

I made a promise to myself a while back. A promise to continue this blog as long as I stay prayerful and stay in the Word. If I stop reading the bible, I stop writing this blog. If there is ever a time I go back through previous posts and feel it isn’t inline with the Word, I will take it down or edit it to fall back inline. I have done this numerous times already. I want my words to be more than mere opinions. I want my words to reflect my walk in faith. I want my entire life, not just this blog, to reflect my walk in faith. Not because I am trying to earn favor. No, it is because I am continuously being transformed by the Word, by prayer, and by the leading of the Holy Spirit.

If you haven’t picked up on this yet, let me fill you in. I do not take things lightly. Not this blog, not my decisions, not anything. 

Now that I have cleared things up. I am going to do my best to respectfully and meekly give my thoughts on some things swirling around in today’s world…

I believe in loving all people. I think love encompasses more than what this world thinks it does. I think you can fully love and fully disagree. I think you can be honest about the things you are uncomfortable with and the things you refuse to accept/tolerate/whatever you want to call it and still love and show love. I think that is the part of love that rejoices in truth. I think that is the part of love that always protects. I think there is a danger in leaving out the parts of love that are harder.

The one part of protection I think often about is purity. Purity is something that changes depending on experience, exposure, age, and maturation level. Purity is something our culture has become desensitized to.

I think you can raise your kids to love all people without having things shoved in their face they may not be ready to fully understand. It has nothing to do with being hateful or ignorant. We have a duty to explain things to our kids, yes. We also have a duty to decide what they are exposed to. There is a huge difference between the two. Sometimes they are exposed to things outside of our control. Trust me when I say, they will remember what the world exposes them to and what you choose to expose them to.

See, I think it is different for all kids. My four-year old will have a better understanding on these gray areas of life than my seven-year old. My seven-year old lives life according to rules. He gets disturbed by things that are harder to understand. I should say, the things that are harder for him to understand. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t love people. It means God made him to think differently than some people. I will honor this about him.

Last night I read an article about a lawsuit. A boy feels uncomfortable having a person with female parts changing in the locker room with him. The school is refusing to see his way. Think about it this way. He is being forced into something that changes his purity. I know maybe he has seen a naked or close to naked female already. But there is a difference between someone making the choice to see someone naked or close to and someone not having the choice to. There is a difference in choosing to allow someone to see you naked or close to naked and being forced to change in front of someone. I think of how my kids would feel in this situation. My seven-year old would be so deeply disturbed.

Some are born more modest than others. I am one of those people. I cannot imagine being that age and having someone with male parts change in the same room as me. Think of all these kids who have never seen someone of the opposite sex before. There is something wrong with ever thinking they don’t have a right in this decision.

imageThere are consequences to all of these things happening. I will continue to disagree and not become desensitized to things I don’t want to become desensitized to. I want to protect my kids purity until they are old enough to make their own decisions. I know people don’t think about boys purity as much as girls, but I think boys deserve this part of them to be protected as well. I will always point to truth and simultaneously stress God’s love and forgiveness that covers all sins for the times they mess up.

I want my kids to know they and their bodies are precious and worth protecting…but also worth forgiveness. How else are they ever going to learn to truly love themselves or others?

18 thoughts on “Purity

      1. Well, I really do like how you want to protect your children. There’s just too much out there nowadays, and it seems (not to be too political) that in order to protect the rights of a few, we are being asked to give up the rights of many. To me, having a pure childhood is essential, and exposure to things that would even make adults uncomfortable is not contributing to that.

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  1. Such a great post, Stacy. I agree wholeheartedly. I protected my kids and they now grown can tell stories on what I would not allow them to watch on TV. This is what we are called to do by God. Today, I’m certain it’s more difficult today because yes cartoons, commercials are beyond the pale of what is acceptable.

    Unfortunately, tolerance is one sided. This world is definitely not our home.

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  2. Stacy, I totally agree with the need for us to protect the purity of our children. I also agree with Nickel Boy Graphic’s comment. It’s a pity that we have to give up the rights of many, for the rights of few. Thank for having the courage to write this post.

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    1. It is a pity. I don’t mean that and I don’t think most mean it in an insensitive way. There is far too much at stake for me not to share my thoughts on this. People are not seeing the whole picture and the consequences of these decisions…


  3. I think parents need to make wise use of teaching moments, but I also understand that parents need room to choose when to use those teaching moments. I think homeschool families have more leniency here than public and private schooled children. In the other cases, if you don’t teach about it then somebody else will. It’s sad that our society has become this way.

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    1. Yes, I agree we do need to make wise use of teachable moments. We do not homeschool, so there are some things that are more challenging for us. We discuss these things, but also let them know why sometimes our choices are different than what their friends parents choose without criticizing them for their differences. I am becoming more and more intrigued with homeschooling. I know a few teens who are homeschooled and they just seem more secure with themselves. I know that may not always be the case, but it is interesting to see the obvious differences.


  4. Thanks for sharing this! I completely agree, and choose to closely monitor what my little boys are exposed too. You make some really great points in this post, Stacy. Their purity is definitely worth fighting for!

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